Take Off The Boxing Gloves and Stop Fighting

I hear from so many people, “I’m so tired of fighting. Everything is a struggle.” And I always reply with, “What if you stopped fighting? What if you just surrender to what is?” I spent a good portion of my adult life fighting what was. Trying to control everything and everyone. Of course, I didn’t see it that way. I saw it as me trying to help everyone. Everyone but myself. I was constantly frustrated, annoyed, disappointed, and felt completely …

Do You Hold Space for Yourself?

“When do I get to come first?” “When will I be someone’s priority?” “When is it my turn?” How often have you asked these questions or a variation thereof? How much time have you spent crying because you just don’t feel valued? You give and give and give of yourself, and yet, no one returns the favor. In October of 2013, I found myself curled up in the fetal position on my dining room floor, sobbing like I had never …

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Be Vulnerageous

I love Eckhart Tolle. His books have been life-changing for me, especially “The Power of Now”. Today, in using some of his words on a group coaching call, I came across the gem below. It helped me to realize why people do not show up for themselves. “Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your …

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The Courage of Your Convictions

My first husband used to say to me, “I love that you have the courage of your convictions.” And this sounds like a good thing to have. Courage to stand up for what I believe is right even if others disagree with me. And yet … How healthy is that? Can we take the courage of our convictions too far and become overbearing and bossy? Does it make us want to prove to everyone that we are right in our …